IF YOU’RE IN THE DARK

Sometimes there is no clear narrative to evaluate because you simply don't know what you are being held accountable for. This carries its own unique misery: you cannot examine or make amends for what you cannot see.

The only reasonable response is to wait for clarity, a shift in dynamics, or enough information to begin the process. In the meantime, your task is to remain accessible and resist the temptation to fill the silence with a self-authored narrative that may be entirely inaccurate.​

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Questions to Explore

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Have you asked what the grievance is, or are you waiting for them to volunteer the information?

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What narrative have you constructed to explain their silence? How sure are you that it is accurate?

Is there anyone in your shared network - a mutual friend, another family member - who might possess insight you lack?

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How are you actively maintaining your own mental and emotional health while you wait?